When we hear the word “confidence”, we often think of a person who is kind and motivates others to reach their full potential.
However, some people take it the wrong way and mistake confidence for excessive pride.
The cost of being self-secure can involve intimidating other people, often building a wall between you and a potential friend.
If you want to further understand what aspects of your personality other people may find daunting, here are the 10 signs that you have a confident personality that sometimes intimidates others:
1) You Have No Room For Excuses
One of the reasons why people may find you intimidating is your aversion to excuses. You’re not one to make excuses or settle for less.
This is why people often view you as having high standards and a no-nonsense attitude.
While this is a great thing when it comes to achieving your goals, it can also make others feel like they are being held accountable and judged.
While some people may take your no-nonsense attitude as offensive, you know that when people understand that excuses will not be tolerated, they are more likely to take responsibility for their actions and work towards finding solutions rather than blaming external factors.
This is why you don’t settle for less, and even though it often leads to greater success, it can also create a sense of pressure to perform and meet expectations.
2) You’re Unsparingly Straightforward
You find no reason to lie because you know that there’s always a huge value in the truth.
So other people may tend to hesitate to approach you because of your lack of filter.
This is a cost that you’ve acknowledged for the sake of being a staunch advocate of being a catalyst for change.
I would actually give anything to have more people be more straightforward and brutally honest with me.
Being spared from the truth will only do more harm than good as it will prevent me from changing the things that I needed to change to achieve more growth at the highest levels.
But some people don’t see it that way. They’d rather avoid the harsh truths about life in order to maintain their comfort.
3) Ignorance Irks You
Confident people may understand mediocrity, but they can never tolerate ignorance.
Your self-taught knowledge is something you’re immensely proud of.
So when people make instant judgments about people and things they don’t know anything about, it irks you to your core.
You’ve put time into your brain, and you encourage others to do the same.
In a world of algorithmic newsfeeds you have no control over, you know that thinking for yourself is one of the most important qualities one can have.
While you don’t mean to offend anyone, you can’t help but become overly assertive or dismissive in response to ignorance, especially if you believe it challenges your own values or expertise.
4) You’re Not Afraid to Voice Your Opinion
Ever since a young age, I’ve always told people what I thought.
I’ve been quick to share my opinions and ideas. I enjoy getting others’ perspectives and discussing different approaches.
But one thing I’ve noticed is that this can be super unpopular too.
Whilst some like-minded strong people equally get a kick out of debate, others find it incredibly threatening.